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Starting Over: How Not to Screw Up Your Next Relationship

Written byBill Smith

So, your last relationship went sour. Maybe it was so fast and furious, with so much light and heat, that it burned itself out. Maybe you were engaged when one or both of you decided it wasn’t going to work. Or, hardest of all, perhaps you were married when, sadly, everything fell apart.

Whatever happened, you are single again, and you’ve been thinking about or toying with the idea of getting involved with someone new. You might be attracted to someone right now, or perhaps you’re just thinking about the possibility for the future.

You’re a little nervous—you’d like to have a new relationship—but you’re not sure, given your track record, how good an idea that is. Certainly the other person in your previous relationship had his or her share of issues, but in your more thoughtful moments you know you also had yours.

Because you’ve got issues to address, you’ve also got questions: Should you start something with someone else? Will you be toxic or nurturing this time? What were you supposed to learn from your past experience(s)? How do you know you’re ready to try again?

While no one can tell you exactly what to do, this booklet will help you think through your questions from God’s perspective.

About the Author

William P. Smith, MDiv, PhD, is a pastor and director of the community counseling center at Chelten Baptist Church, Dresher, Pennsylvania. He has authored the books Loving Well (Even When You Haven’t Been) and Caught Off Guard: Encounters with the Unexpected God as well as numerous minibooks including How Do I Stop Losing It with My Kids? and How to Love Difficult People. Bill is regularly invited to speak at other churches and lead weekend retreats. He and his wife Sally are the parents of three very active children.

Book Details

24 pages
Publisher: New Growth Press
Publication Year: 2009

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